How to French Kiss a Boy Well
By Simone Smith
So you're thinking about French kissing someone, huh?
Well, change into those PJ's and break out the nail polish! We've got some fun chatting to do, just you and me. By the end, you'll be all set to French kiss a boy (or girl)- and oh la la, will you ever French kiss WELL! Let's get started, mon petit cherie.
French Kissing 101
As you can probably judge from my French name, I have a leg up in this whole French kissing game. Indeed, French kissing runs in my blood, as I descend from a Parisian-raised French war bride whose smooching was so top-notch, she snagged herself an American war hero in no time flat.
To be honest, my initial response when asked for pointers on this end is "Just KISS! It's natural."
But maybe it isn't. So let's break it DOWN, guurlfraaaain!
Before we get into the details, can I just say that this person you're thinking about kissing is one lucky dude/tte? You're quite a catch! Actually, realizing just how fabulous you are helps in the kissing department. Confidence is key, but beyond confidence, you DO need to possess some basic kissing skills. I cover those in another guide. Go ahead and review it if you want a refresher. I'll wait.
Chances are that you're comfortable with kissing, so let's move on.
French kissing is only different from basic kissing in that there is a bit of tongue involved. The key to French kissing well involves one's finesse and technique. To understand those elements, it helps to distinguish between French kissing and what I like to refer to as American kissing
French vs. American Kissing
France and America are exceedingly different countries. Personality-wise, France is more laid-back, romantic, and classy, while America is more young, rebellious, and ambitious. While these American attributes may offer a leg up in business or sports, they do NOT help in the kissing department.
American kissing is characterized by being:
- Inexperienced
- Too aggressive
- Sloppy
Avoid American kissing. Stick to French kissing (or Freedom kissing, if you must).
French Kissing - Step by Step
At this point, I think you're ready for some honest to goodness French kissing pointers. Let's make them sequential. What's not to like about a walkthrough?
- Start with normal kissing (only Maori warriors come at their opponents with their tongues lolling, and they're not doing it to turn anyone on)
- In the midst of your (I should hope) enjoyable kiss, part your lips just a tad (you're not trying to eat a burger, bucko)
- Let your tongue take a small exploratory venture out of your mouth. Just a peek. Maybe give your partner's lip a teensy lick. Nothing crazy. This is your way of saying "Hey dude! You up for this?" If your partner does not react favorably (it takes two to French), do not proceed.
- If your partner reacts favorably, feel free to be a little more forward and be a bit more exploratory. Maybe you and your partner's tongues will get to know each other. Maybe you'll try kissing a bit deeper. Maybe your tongue will take a little stroll around your partners lips. Mix it up. No need to give me a play-by-play. You've got it from here, kid.
French Kissing Tips
Here are some generally accepted words of wisdom from both myself and friends/acquaintances:
- Hold the mouth breathing for later down the line - Sharing breath is all fine and dandy, but I recommend starting off by breathing through your nose. It's more polite.
- Never underestimate the value of oral hygiene and breath mints
- Use your body - Kissing is all fine and dandy, but you don't want to just stand there, leaning towards each other, do you? Feel free to use your hands, try out different embraces, blah blah blah. Don't forget that this is a whole body experience, kiddies.
- Watch the teeth - banging teeth can hurt, so when changing positions or angles, be careful! Especially be careful if both you and your partners have braces. God knows you like kissing, but you don't want to get hooked together by your orthodontia.
- Change things up - If you realize that you and your partner only French kiss the same way, like, you always have tongue-thumbwars, or you always kiss super deeply, consider spicing things up with something different- perhaps a little lip nibble, or a less visited area of the mouth. Kissing should be anything but boring. For more ways to keep it fresh, check out the tips below, courtesy of previous readers who were kind enough to share their tips and tricks in the comments.
- End gracefully - When you're finished with your mind-blowingly awesome kiss and want a break to get some air, just transition the kiss into a normal kiss and you're good to go.
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See results without votingFun Tricks to Spice it Up from Outside Expertise!
- Try toying with the sensitive area right under the tongue - Recommended by Cagsil in the comments, this Frenching move involves caressing the underside of your partner's tongue with your own. For tips from the horse's mouth (or Cagsil's very human mouth, rather), scroll down to the comments below.
- Consider some light tongue flicking and consider the odd nibble at the ear - A great recommendation from JSParker, ear nibbles are a great way to keep things interesting when uninterrupted mouth-to-mouth starts getting dull
- K9keystrokes points out that you don't have to go as far as the ear to spice things up. In her words, "Nothing says, "this is hot" like a little lip nibbling on your way to a sensational French kiss!" I agree.
- Ambiance is also key, as Winsome can tell you. Certainly it would be difficult to reach the rather steamy scene described in his poem, Singularity - The World's Best Kiss, if one were kissing in a strip mall parking lot.
French Kissing DON'Ts
While there are plenty of things one SHOULD do when French kissing, there are plenty of things one should avoid. Many of the DON'Ts outlined below bring one into the territory of American kissing, mentioned above. Most of these things are obvious, but hey... it never hurts to bring them up. Knowledge is power!
- Starting out aggressively - As I mentioned above, you don't want to immediately start off kissing with tongue. That is not French kissing; that's American kissing, in the most classic sense. And not in a good way.
- Keeping your eyes open the whole time - Yeah, some folks like to kiss with their eyes open, but man, can it ever weird people out. So until you discover that your partner is into open-eye kissing, I recommend closing your eyes before making contact. You're not missing out on much by closing your eyes. Pores look kind of gross close-up.
- Getting caught up in the details - Though feeling someone else's molars with your tongue may be an interesting experience, keep in mind that you're not here to perform a cleaning.
- Being a dead fish - French kissing is not really French kissing unless both parties are involved. Don't make your partner do all the work! Don't just sit there! Do your part!
Happy Snogging!
I sincerely hope this guide has been helpful, and that you're all set to go off and French kiss to your heart's delight!
Are you an expert French kisser? Do you have a particularly awesome pointer? Leave it in the comments below! Goodness know different folks have all sorts of interesting tips and anecdotes. Why not share them?
Comments
Hey Simone, I have one thing that I learned about French Kissing and I'll gladly share it with whomever chooses to listen. I do have others, but one of the most important aspects of the kiss is in getting your partner to receive an enjoyable experience and to do that is to find their sensitive spot, which is directly under their tongue. I have learned that many women I have kissed get turned on even more when it's a soft stroke, rotated either left or right, but gently caresses the under side of her tongue. I've heard more groans/moans from receiving this particular technique. Their grips/grasp intensifies and it ignites a little bit of passion. It has to be done properly, otherwise, it's just another kiss. :) Interesting hub you've written. Thank you for sharing.
Simone, you do such a wonderful job with these. I am in the car, moving to Virginia and read this one to my wife. You do a wonderful job writing!
Thanks JSParker! SO adding that to the Hub, with due credit, of course :D
And goodness gracious, Cags, what an interesting tip! I think I know what you're talking about. Must find a victim-er... friend... to go test that out on. Definitely making a note of that in the Hub.
Tehee, thanks Mutiny92! And congrats on the move! Virginia is so gorgeous.
Simone, once again you have written a terrific hub. I would never have thought of writing a hub like this. Up and awesome.
Voted up! Wish I had known this when I was in college... more teens should read this!
Wow....this was valuable information from you. I had never knew about this before. Maybe I just know Indonesian kiss. Thanks for share with us. I learn much from you. Well done, my friend. Rated up!
Love and peace, prasetio
Great article Simone and one which more should read. I love French kissing and have done since I was first introduced to it more than 50 years ago. I must have French kissed more than a thousand women over the years and continue to kiss more (I suppose to some this makes me old and therefore gross but I don't care) and enjoy and have never had a complaint yet.
Whereas all your advice is great there is that little 'extra' which certain special people have. Out of all my kisses shared there were five who literally knocked me out of my shoes. Really memorable. One when I was 12, one at 16, one at 59 and two others more recently. Long may they continue.
OHHHHHH MYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You had me all . . . .hm, let's just call it "charged up," okay? Then I got down to old Gene, and it twas like a bucket O' Ice water hit me in the face - combined, somehow as it was, with an exasperated "LOL!"
Simone, this lecture on The French Kiss is one of the most enjoyable hubs I’ve read in a long time. Can’t find enough buttons to vote this one up. (I have no choice but to copy this applause coined by Saddlerider.) I’m sharing this excellent lecture with all my friends and relatives.
PS.: I’ll try Cagsil’s tip whenever I get the wonderful opportunity to kiss again. Perhaps I should go out and find myself a guinea-pig :))))
I love the way you've made this Hub interactive by including suggestions from commenting Hubbers right in the body of your Hub! How clever.
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Thanks KoffeeKlatch Gals! I never would have thought of this either. I owe the idea for this Hub to another HubPages team member :D
I totally agree with you, FCEtier. Lots of teens could benefit from developing some finesse in the French kissing department.
Indonesian kisses- those are foreign territory to me, prasetio30! I bet they're just as interesting as French ones; most undeniably better than American ones XD
Rock on, Peter Dickinson! You've got it going on! It's fascinating that those five kisses in particular stand out so clearly in your memory. You make an excellent point about the importance of the individual one is kissing. Technique can only go so far- there must be a spark!
Exactly my intention, Wesman Todd Shaw. Glad to see it worked! Gotta keep people balanced, right?
Thank you so much for the high compliments, MartieCoetser! And do give Cag's trick a try! I'd love to hear how it works out for various people, teheheheee ;P
Isn't it fun, JSParker? I love how Hubs are perfect for that kind of format- how perfect they are for regular updating and the like. I hope this one only gets better and more useful with time.
And yep- Alladream74. Thanks for stopping by :)
Yummy. Good training hub. Looks like you've found your niche, helping people get lucky.
Gawd, I hate saying this but, "You're the sh*t!" Ahh, Simone, your personality is finally showing itself in all its glory-keep it up-if you get my drift...haha. Too drippingly much, you gorgeous one, you!
Thanks for your valuable advice, Simone. I'll try these techniques with a total stranger. He might freak out in the beginning, but his panic would quickly be melted by my masterful kiss. =D
lol I love the hub! Maybe I will try out some of this on my husband. ;) I gave you an awesome and voted up!
It's a fun niche, A.A. Zavala! Not gonna lie.
And lorlie6, your praise means a lot to me! Thank you, ever so :D And hey- if you don't like calling me the sh*t, you may always refer to me as The Turd.
Jeez, Om. You always have the best ideas. I ought to try the same thing. Perhaps I'll top if off with a ninja costume and yell "ATTACK KISS!" before moving in. Just for fun.
Oh, and thanks DentalHelper84! GO FOR IT!!! And if you pick up any new moves, do share 'em here and we'll add them to the guide, hehee >_
This is top-notch Simone! Nothing is more intimate than a good kiss! I find your approach to subject very fun as well as informational. Nothing says, "this is hot" like a little lip nibbling on your way to a sensational French kiss! Up and awesome!
K9
Absolutely delightful--especially your wrapping up comments after each tip. I put all my experience into my "Singularity" hub, but I will say that atmosphere can add a lot. A fun follow up hub could be "some of the most romantic places to kiss in...."
Keep on being you, we're all trying to keep up. =:)
Tehehee! Thanks K9keystrokes! Good kisses are key, aren't they? And nibbles are the best! I should add in an extra note about that.
Thanks Winsome :D And I just read "Singularity" and you sure did! Great point about atmosphere though. I'll add that, and a link to the poem, to this Hub.
Simone, you're hilarious! I think you've got a new follower. I voted up and funny.
Thanks KMattox!! When it comes to such subjects as this, the funniness is somewhat inevitable :D
......this is better than reading Cosmopolitan magazine - and although they may cover the same territory - I really think the editors should hire you on with a paid gig in mind because your writing style is charming, sassy, slightly irreverent and dare I say, tongue in cheek!
lake erie time 9:07pm Ontario, Canada with literally a full moon over the lake right now
Oh, they TOTALLY should. And sounds like you were writing that comment in the midst of some EXCELLENT French kissing weather.
I would like to French kiss my girlfriend. Thanks for such great tips Simone.
Go for it, onethousandpoems!
Wow this was great - I love reading information like this, makes be really want to go into action right now!!
Hahaa, indeed! Have fun, acaetnna!
COOL!!...i didn't know that eyes wide open while kissing is a big "NO_NO"...ahahah...cool!!
What a good read for any time of the day.I like to switch it up with little kisses and then a little french kissing,then stop and back to the little kisses always leaving the person wanting more.There will be lots more if the hubbers follow your advice mmmm that is nice.Thanx again for something we all thought we knew.But the underside of the tongue that is a good one.
Well, some people like open-eye kisses, felicitylovespari, so don't knock 'em entirely! That said, it's best to keep eyes closed until you figure out your partner's style- more people express a dislike for open-eye kisses than a fondness for them.
And I think mixing it up is an excellent approach, DREAM ON. And yeah! Major points to Cagsil for that one!
It`s the Only Way to Kiss!!
That's what we think these days, peterose27. Too bad Nazca kissing has become a lost art.
wow your a realy good writter and that piece of information has been great use for me! I hope u continue what your doing because its very good.
I am a teen and i found this sooo help ful
thanks hpoe it works
Thanks Selena! I'm so glad you found this helpful, Britany Cozad. And best of luck to you, Shaleigh Mayo!
I am 12 yrs old and my 11 yr old boyfriend asked me what I wanted for Christmas. I said a kiss and next time I go over to his house or he comes over to mine I' ll be smoochin it up! The thing is its my first kiss....thx for the advice!
LOL.LOL.LOL. Im giggling all over here..never tried that yet..! well i just turned 20...sOoooo..perhaps! Im just gonna wait until ill go get back my first love!
Wow Allison. You know what you want and you're getting it!
Princess Pitt, I am glad to hear you giggling. Because that's the kind of thing I had in mind when I was writing this guide. Though... all of the tips included ARE genuine. Happy snogging!
brittney is such a good french kisser. and shes not even french!
Brittany wins!
All day every day baby!!!
wow thay was a gr8 tip thx
I still don't get it
I Am A Teen To 17 And I Have French Kissed About 4 Guy In My Life And They All Said That I Am Good At It!!!
Very well put! Love your writing style, you hit all the points. Can't wait to read more of your hubs. Awesome!
GREAT HUB! Ive only French kissed one girl in my life (current girlfriend) an she say I'm AMAZING! THANKS MAN!!!!
wow this wuz very helpful i read it last week and me nd my bf kissed to day and he sayd i wuz the best kisser in the world nd i would nt be able to do it with out thiz hub thaxxxxxx
Way to go, jerzygirl8!
I Like it , it is lovely
i am 12 years old and ive french kissed two guys and this weekend ill be kissing the second one some more.. its really nice and fun!!
Glad to hear it, mia :D
i really needed this ty!!!!!
Simone this helped me Soooooooo much. I kissed my boyfriend for the first time a couple weeks ago. And this gave me some if the best tips ever.
Way to go, Aubrey! I bet you're a total pro now ;) Have fun!
JSParker 10 months ago
Very cool hub. Voted funny. May I add that a little light tongue flicking and tiny nibbles at the ear add a nice side dish.